3. This new state of things gives rise to new questions. Granted the conditions of life today and taking into account the relevance of married love to the harmony and mutual fidelity of husband and wife, would it not be right to review the moral norms in force till now, especially when it is felt that these can be observed only with the gravest difficulty, sometimes only by heroic effort?
Married love is also faithful and exclusive of all other, and this until death. This is how husband and wife understood it on the day on which, fully aware of what they were doing, they freely vowed themselves to one another in marriage. Though this fidelity of husband and wife sometimes presents difficulties, no one has the right to assert that it is impossible; it is, on the contrary, always honorable and meritorious. The example of countless married couples proves not only that fidelity is in accord with the nature of marriage, but also that it is the source of profound and enduring happiness.
If therefore there are well-grounded reasons for spacing births, arising from the physical or psychological condition of husband or wife, or from external circumstances, the Church teaches that married people may then take advantage of the natural cycles immanent in the reproductive system and engage in marital intercourse only during those times that are infertile, thus controlling birth in a way which does not in the least offend the moral principles which We have just explained. (20)
Neither the Church nor her doctrine is inconsistent when she considers it lawful for married people to take advantage of the infertile period but condemns as always unlawful the use of means which directly prevent conception, even when the reasons given for the later practice may appear to be upright and serious. In reality, these two cases are completely different. In the former the married couple rightly use a faculty provided them by nature. In the later they obstruct the natural development of the generative process. It cannot be denied that in each case the married couple, for acceptable reasons, are both perfectly clear in their intention to avoid children and wish to make sure that none will result. But it is equally true that it is exclusively in the former case that husband and wife are ready to abstain from intercourse during the fertile period as often as for reasonable motives the birth of another child is not desirable. And when the infertile period recurs, they use their married intimacy to express their mutual love and safeguard their fidelity toward one another. In doing this they certainly give proof of a true and authentic love.
Finally, careful consideration should be given to the danger of this power passing into the hands of those public authorities who care little for the precepts of the moral law. Who will blame a government which in its attempt to resolve the problems affecting an entire country resorts to the same measures as are regarded as lawful by married people in the solution of a particular family difficulty? Who will prevent public authorities from favoring those contraceptive methods which they consider more effective? Should they regard this as necessary, they may even impose their use on everyone. It could well happen, therefore, that when people, either individually or in family or social life, experience the inherent difficulties of the divine law and are determined to avoid them, they may give into the hands of public authorities the power to intervene in the most personal and intimate responsibility of husband and wife.
21. The right and lawful ordering of birth demands, first of all, that spouses fully recognize and value the true blessings of family life and that they acquire complete mastery over themselves and their emotions. For if with the aid of reason and of free will they are to control their natural drives, there can be no doubt at all of the need for self-denial. Only then will the expression of love, essential to married life, conform to right order. This is especially clear in the practice of periodic continence. Self-discipline of this kind is a shining witness to the chastity of husband and wife and, far from being a hindrance to their love of one another, transforms it by giving it a more truly human character. And if this self-discipline does demand that they persevere in their purpose and efforts, it has at the same time the salutary effect of enabling husband and wife to develop to their personalities and to be enriched with spiritual blessings. For it brings to family life abundant fruits of tranquility and peace. It helps in solving difficulties of other kinds. It fosters in husband and wife thoughtfulness and loving consideration for one another. It helps them to repel inordinate self-love, which is the opposite of charity. It arouses in them a consciousness of their responsibilities. And finally, it confers upon parents a deeper and more effective influence in the education of their children. As their children grow up, they develop a right sense of values and achieve a serene and harmonious use of their mental and physical powers.
For this reason husbands and wives should take up the burden appointed to them, willingly, in the strength of faith and of that hope which "does not disappoint us, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us ~}36 Then let them implore the help of God with unremitting prayer and, most of all, let them draw grace and charity from that unfailing fount which is the Eucharist. If, however, sin still exercises its hold over them, they are not to lose heart. Rather must they, humble and persevering, have recourse to the mercy of God, abundantly bestowed in the Sacrament of Penance. In this way, for sure, they will be able to reach that perfection of married life which the Apostle sets out in these words: "Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church. . . Even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the Church. . . This is a great mystery, and I mean in reference to Christ and the Church; however, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband." (37)
Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. But she is happier if she remains as she is, according to my judgment; and I think I also have the Spirit of God.
"Even with many questions unsettled, the discovery could reignite the debate over whether Jesus was married, whether Mary Magdalene was his wife and whether he had a female disciple. These debates date to the early centuries of Christianity, scholars say. But they are relevant today, when global Christianity is roiling over the place of women in ministry and the boundaries of marriage.
Update at 10:15 a.m. ET, Sept. 19: On Morning Edition today, NPR's Barbara Bradley Hagerty reported that King says that while the scrap of papyrus is not evidence that Jesus was married, it is "quite clear evidence, in fact, that some Christians, probably in the second half of the second century ... thought that Jesus had a wife."
Because the marriage registration data of different provinces are not shared, Chen took the advantage of this loophole and got married without divorcing the previous wife. The judge of this bigamy case said that they will give judicial suggestions to the civil administration department on this matter.
The Alabama Court of Appeals upheld a postnuptial agreement where the husband provided only the cost, not the market value, of his real estate and business. The wife had agreed to sign rather than terminate the marriage after the husband discovered her affair. The agreement negotiation process took twenty-seven months, and the wife, who had been married twenty years and was familiar with real estate issues, consulted three attorneys during the process.43
In South Carolina, an annulment means that the marriage never existed. Therefore, when the wife married another man three years before the annulment, she did not commit bigamy because the prior annulled marriage never existed.228 Other states have disagreed on that one.
A couple who lived together for twenty-three years and portrayed themselves as either married or single depending on what was most financially advantageous to them did not have a common law marriage.250 A one-night stay in the District of Columbia, even where the parties believe themselves to be married and have been through a marriage ceremony, was insufficient to establish cohabitation for purposes of a common law marriage.251 In deciding whether a same-sex common law marriage exists, the Colorado Court of Appeals applied Obergefell retroactively and found that the same test for common law marriage exists for same-sex couples as for opposite-sex couples.252 Tennessee held that a petitioner failed to rebut the presumption of the validity of the second marriage because she had failed to conduct a search of all the counties in which the decedent could have divorced his first wife.253
Under Indiana law, funds in two college savings accounts that an ex-husband had opened for his two children were his property. The trial court, during post-dissolution proceedings, lacked authority to make the ex-wife a co-owner of these accounts.272 A condominium a man bought shortly before starting to date the woman he eventually married should not have been classified as a marital asset.273
@Anita,I, too, really appreciate trading opinions on movies. I love finding gems based on a good recommendation rather than slogging through 10 bad ones to find it myself! Based on what you just said, I may think about Donnie Darko for awhile and watch the Before Sunrise and Before Sunset movies I just picked up from the library first. I like satisfying movies of all kinds, but I usually want something on the uplifting side and a relatively happy ending.When you say Age of Innocence doesn't have a happy ending, is it like The Painted Veil (not a happy ending but such a beautiful movie and redemptive, I loved it) or like Atonement (which I acknowledge was a good movie with a powerful romance, but it was so depressing, this is not the kind of movie I want to watch).Today I was just reminded of Will Ferrell's The Other Guys. I am often put off by too much bathroom or puerile humor in his movies, but this one was hilarious. The romance between Ferrell's character and the character of his wife in the movie was sidesplitting and ultimately very sweet. While the movie wasn't romantic comedy, the romance element was very memorable for the humorous way it portrayed their relationship. 2b1af7f3a8